Living in abuse is living in lies, every day, every hour. He loves you, but he hits you. In reality, he loves the feeling he gets, the power, the control over you. He may apologize for it, sometimes, he may even believe it. Still… if he really loved you, he’d get help – he may not even be capable of recognizing that you are worthy of equal treatment.
Physical abuse is not a sign of love. No one is the model of a perfect wife or husband; we’re all human, with human frailties.
It is hard to focus from inside of a relationship of abuse. As the receiver of abuse, we are also at fault for the abuse, we hear it so often. Cause and effect are twisted around. For the most part, abusers only get worse. The need to abuse is an addiction of power that draws out harsher punishments, louder arguments, verbal becomes physical, physical grows worse, and worse until it turns deadly. That is the normal progression of abuse….
Ms. Bhavna Mahajan (consultant/child therapist and healer)